Such a simple question, 4 little words, yet this question is the one that stumps most people, especially those who have become emotionally disconnected with themselves.
So let me ask you:
What does Joy mean to you? What brings you Joy?
What have you experienced that made/ makes your heart burst open to such an extent that you had no idea that you could feel such joy, love, and happiness? Is it an accomplishment, a piece of music, a sunset, the love and connection you feel with another, fulfilling a life long dream, a new awareness?
What makes you happy to be alive now, right now?
Take a moment, or a day or a week, but make sure you take the time to answer this question. This is so important because whatever you put your attention on will become your Reality. If all you’re seeing in your life are the things that are wrong with it, then that’s what will end up taking up the most space.
You see, thoughts have emotions attached to them and emotions create chemical reactions in your brain. Each time you think a thought that generates a strong emotion, powerful neurochemicals are released in your brain creating neural pathways. Each time you repeat this thought and feeling, the neural pathways gets more defined in much the same way as walking down a path, the more it is traveled the more defined the path becomes.
What all of this means is that you can literally create a happy / sad/ joyous/ negative / inspired brain. It’s completely up to you! You can chemically reconfigure your brain to be whatever kind of brain you want. Think about the impact this has on the quality of life you live.
Name 5 things that bring you Joy and then post your answers so that we can acknowledge it with you! If you can only name 1 thing, that’s fine too. www.kristinajansz.com
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Sunday, November 22, 2009
The Importance of Pausing
Imagine reading a book in which there are no commas or periods. Page after page, all the words run together making it near impossible to decipher the intended meaning.
Imagine listening to a piece of music that doesn't have any rests in it. What you’d experience is a cacophony of meaningless noise.
Imagine getting into a car and driving it from point A to point B. At your start point you press the accelerator to the floor and, without stopping at stop signs or traffic lights, you don’t release your foot until you reach point B. This action will cause chaos and destruction to you and those around you.
The commas and periods in written word and the rests in music are what give context and meaning to these forms of expressions. Using the breaks while driving allows you to interact with others respectfully and safely on the road. All of these are examples of Pausing and they create order out of chaos.
In the same way, taking time out to Pause brings meaning to the energy you output in your life.
• Pausing and being fully present in the moment gives deeper meaning to your actions.
• Pausing before reacting to another greatly enhancing meaningful, respectful communication.
• Pausing and turning your attention inwards helps you re-center yourself so that you can hear your truth. It allows you to reconnect with your emotional center of gravity.
Pausing also allows you to press that internal reset button and reconnect with the place within where your mind, body, heart and soul meet. From this point of being centered you can then go out to meet your day, week, challenges.
Now, will it be possible for you to go from living at break-neck speed to being fully present in every single moment, right away? Probably not, however small steps repeated consistently over time generate extraordinary, long lasting change and that's something that is achievable!
So, take time out to Pause as often as you can during the course of a day. Right now it may only be for a few seconds at a time, and that's okay. Make it your goal to become fully present in the moment, for instance while sipping your morning coffee or sitting at a traffic light or speaking with your child. Be in this moment as if nothing else in the Universe exists but this moment.
Ask your senses to shake off their drowsiness and fully experience everything that is happening. Challenge yourself to discover beauty in each of these moments. Dare yourself to find something for which you are truly grateful. In doing so, you will greatly increase the value and meaning of each moment you're living and ultimately the quality of your life. www.kristinajansz.com
Imagine listening to a piece of music that doesn't have any rests in it. What you’d experience is a cacophony of meaningless noise.
Imagine getting into a car and driving it from point A to point B. At your start point you press the accelerator to the floor and, without stopping at stop signs or traffic lights, you don’t release your foot until you reach point B. This action will cause chaos and destruction to you and those around you.
The commas and periods in written word and the rests in music are what give context and meaning to these forms of expressions. Using the breaks while driving allows you to interact with others respectfully and safely on the road. All of these are examples of Pausing and they create order out of chaos.
In the same way, taking time out to Pause brings meaning to the energy you output in your life.
• Pausing and being fully present in the moment gives deeper meaning to your actions.
• Pausing before reacting to another greatly enhancing meaningful, respectful communication.
• Pausing and turning your attention inwards helps you re-center yourself so that you can hear your truth. It allows you to reconnect with your emotional center of gravity.
Pausing also allows you to press that internal reset button and reconnect with the place within where your mind, body, heart and soul meet. From this point of being centered you can then go out to meet your day, week, challenges.
Now, will it be possible for you to go from living at break-neck speed to being fully present in every single moment, right away? Probably not, however small steps repeated consistently over time generate extraordinary, long lasting change and that's something that is achievable!
So, take time out to Pause as often as you can during the course of a day. Right now it may only be for a few seconds at a time, and that's okay. Make it your goal to become fully present in the moment, for instance while sipping your morning coffee or sitting at a traffic light or speaking with your child. Be in this moment as if nothing else in the Universe exists but this moment.
Ask your senses to shake off their drowsiness and fully experience everything that is happening. Challenge yourself to discover beauty in each of these moments. Dare yourself to find something for which you are truly grateful. In doing so, you will greatly increase the value and meaning of each moment you're living and ultimately the quality of your life. www.kristinajansz.com
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Letting Go
Having to let go can trigger our deepest fears. The end of a relationship, death of a loved one, job loss, moving, life/age transitions, they're all a part of life but, oh my goodness, can they ever stir things up inside!
In fact, they can be so upsetting that we often want to hit the fast-forward button just to get through the whole tumultuous experience as quickly as possible. However, if we do this we often miss the great gift that lies within this time of transition and one that profoundly affects our future.
So, here's what I'd like to share with you about Letting Go.....
"How" you let someone or something go from your life is as important as the fact that they / it came into your life in the first place.
You can let go from a place of:
1. Fear: "Good Riddance! I didn't want to be there anyway, didn't want them in my life, I'm better off without them." or perhaps we are filled with such deep pain and sorrow that we lose our connection with life, the loss of our loved one makes our life some how less meaningful. This place of letting go is filled with fear-based emotions: anger, resentment, bitterness, hopelessness and despair.
Or
2. Love: "While it wasn't always easy, I'm grateful for having had this chance to learn what I needed to learn about myself and others. I am in this life to learn and someone was going to have to step up and teach me this 'dance' (the life's lesson) so if it wasn't them it would have been someone / something else. I'm grateful that they participated with me in learning this lesson and wish them the best." This place of letting go is filled with acknowledgment, gratitude and if not love, then definitely, respect.
Here's why choice number 2 is the better investment for your future. If you are consumed with anger, resentment, bitterness and despair when you let go, the toxic vibrations associated with these fear-based emotions fill you. Basically you ‘marinade’ in them and because whatever you put your attention on, becomes your Reality, these toxic emotional vibrations are the frequency you can expect to experience as your future. What this means is that even though the person or situation has left your immediate Present, the cycle of pain continues as a result of the fear-based thoughts and emotions you’re participating in and using to create your future and you're not free of it at all!
If, on the other hand, your choice is to let go from a place of Love, you are filled with the kind of emotional vibrations that will richly support you in creating a joyous, loving and abundant future and, as a result, you are truly free.
The choice is yours. www.kristinajansz.com
In fact, they can be so upsetting that we often want to hit the fast-forward button just to get through the whole tumultuous experience as quickly as possible. However, if we do this we often miss the great gift that lies within this time of transition and one that profoundly affects our future.
So, here's what I'd like to share with you about Letting Go.....
"How" you let someone or something go from your life is as important as the fact that they / it came into your life in the first place.
You can let go from a place of:
1. Fear: "Good Riddance! I didn't want to be there anyway, didn't want them in my life, I'm better off without them." or perhaps we are filled with such deep pain and sorrow that we lose our connection with life, the loss of our loved one makes our life some how less meaningful. This place of letting go is filled with fear-based emotions: anger, resentment, bitterness, hopelessness and despair.
Or
2. Love: "While it wasn't always easy, I'm grateful for having had this chance to learn what I needed to learn about myself and others. I am in this life to learn and someone was going to have to step up and teach me this 'dance' (the life's lesson) so if it wasn't them it would have been someone / something else. I'm grateful that they participated with me in learning this lesson and wish them the best." This place of letting go is filled with acknowledgment, gratitude and if not love, then definitely, respect.
Here's why choice number 2 is the better investment for your future. If you are consumed with anger, resentment, bitterness and despair when you let go, the toxic vibrations associated with these fear-based emotions fill you. Basically you ‘marinade’ in them and because whatever you put your attention on, becomes your Reality, these toxic emotional vibrations are the frequency you can expect to experience as your future. What this means is that even though the person or situation has left your immediate Present, the cycle of pain continues as a result of the fear-based thoughts and emotions you’re participating in and using to create your future and you're not free of it at all!
If, on the other hand, your choice is to let go from a place of Love, you are filled with the kind of emotional vibrations that will richly support you in creating a joyous, loving and abundant future and, as a result, you are truly free.
The choice is yours. www.kristinajansz.com
Saturday, November 14, 2009
There’s More to Life than 'Going through the Motions'
Your life is meant to be a dazzling expression of all that you are. There was a time when you knew this to be true. It was your truth! You committed to experiencing each moment with your entire being. Your heart was wide open, you believed everything was possible, you knew you could do anything and the radiance of this knowledge shone in your face and sparkled in your eyes. That was before you were told to be practical, reasonable, responsible, and "could you please get your head out of the clouds". And with that, you shut down and grew up.
Since then, you've been doing all the right things and taking well-charted roads. Each day you get up and conduct your life according to the conscious and subconscious guidelines laid out for you by parents, family and society. You do what's expected of you. You're a good person, responsible, reliable and reasonable.
So why, then, is there a voice deep inside you saying, "I can't do this anymore! I feel like I'm suffocating." To those on the outside, your life looks wonderful but inside, it feels empty, as if somehow you're living a lie. You don't feel a connection with the life you’ve worked so hard to create. Daily, you go through the motions but in your heart you know there's something fundamentally wrong. Your rational mind tells you to "snap out of it and be grateful for what you have" but your heart won't be silenced. You feel like you're going crazy.
Let me say here that no, you're not going crazy. Your internal, emotional "egg timer" has gone off and it's time to review the approach you've been taking to living your life. In other words, this is supposed to happen. I fondly refer to it as emotional puberty. It’s similar to physical puberty in that it is essential to your overall maturation process and it's going to happen whether you want it to or not. The difference however, is that unlike the physical version, emotional puberty doesn’t happen in your youth. It’s also important to note that once thought to be a 40’s ‘event’ and thus nicknamed the "mid-life crisis", more and more people are now hearing this call an earlier age.
The sound of the egg timer signals a time when some adjustments are necessary to get back on track with your truth. It does not mean you have to leave your family, relationship or job and you don't have to get a sports car, hairpiece, enhancements and a young date. It does, however, mean that the time has come to review the beliefs and behaviors with which you've been living your life:
• Are they yours or someone else's?
• Are they aligned with the truth of who you really are, as they were when your face shone and your eyes sparkled?
• Have you been making choices from a place of fear (of what your life will be if you do or don't do certain things ) or from a place of truth?
• When you get to the end of your life will you look back and say "Wow, I lived the most wonderful and fulfilling life!"
If your goal is to live a deeply fulfilling, joyous and inspired life then there are some things that have to happen now. To begin with, you cannot accept 'going through the motions' as a way of life. You need to become conscious of how and why you’re living each moment. Call up those emotions of agitation and discontent that have been troubling you and become clear about what you're feeling. To put it simply, Wake Up!
Once you do, you’ll probably find that some changes are required. The process of change can feel overwhelming at times, so much so that you may think your only choice is to do something drastic in order to break free from the stress. While it may seem as though this is the only solution, facing your feelings of discontent does not mean that you have to walk away from everyone and everything in your life. When you find areas that are off track, don't let it slide. Get focused, peel back the layers, figure out where the disconnect is between where you are and where you want to be and then make small, sustainable changes in the direction of your goal. Not only is this easier to achieve, it’s also less traumatic on those around you. If, like most people, you find that you’re too close to your issues to see the forest for the trees and you need help to gain some clarity, reach out and get it!
This may sound like a lot of work but really, it isn’t. In fact, this process is so incredibly freeing that most people wonder why they didn't "wake up" sooner. Your life is meant to be a dazzling expression of all that you are. You're not meant to go though it half-asleep, settling for less, shutting down and numbing your pain. You're supposed to go for it and so, when you do, you reconnect with the greater flow and consciousness of life of which we are all apart. This is a very powerful force. If you saw the movie 'Finding Nemo' you’ll remember the scene in which the turtles are plodding along in the ocean, moving very slowly and unenthusiastically. Suddenly they step into the East Australian Current and take off at great and effortless speed, whooping it up and having the time of their lives. Well, that’s what it’s like! It’s the difference between simply existing and truly living.
When you begin living your truth you will be filled with a renewed life force, the likes of which you probably thought you'd never experience again. You will live with a sense of joy, enthusiasm and vitality that you believed only belonged to childhood.
Start by listening to that little voice inside, the one that tells you something doesn't feel right. Don't brush it aside. It's your truth. It's that shining, dazzling aspect of you waking up and wanting to live.
www.kristinajansz.com
Since then, you've been doing all the right things and taking well-charted roads. Each day you get up and conduct your life according to the conscious and subconscious guidelines laid out for you by parents, family and society. You do what's expected of you. You're a good person, responsible, reliable and reasonable.
So why, then, is there a voice deep inside you saying, "I can't do this anymore! I feel like I'm suffocating." To those on the outside, your life looks wonderful but inside, it feels empty, as if somehow you're living a lie. You don't feel a connection with the life you’ve worked so hard to create. Daily, you go through the motions but in your heart you know there's something fundamentally wrong. Your rational mind tells you to "snap out of it and be grateful for what you have" but your heart won't be silenced. You feel like you're going crazy.
Let me say here that no, you're not going crazy. Your internal, emotional "egg timer" has gone off and it's time to review the approach you've been taking to living your life. In other words, this is supposed to happen. I fondly refer to it as emotional puberty. It’s similar to physical puberty in that it is essential to your overall maturation process and it's going to happen whether you want it to or not. The difference however, is that unlike the physical version, emotional puberty doesn’t happen in your youth. It’s also important to note that once thought to be a 40’s ‘event’ and thus nicknamed the "mid-life crisis", more and more people are now hearing this call an earlier age.
The sound of the egg timer signals a time when some adjustments are necessary to get back on track with your truth. It does not mean you have to leave your family, relationship or job and you don't have to get a sports car, hairpiece, enhancements and a young date. It does, however, mean that the time has come to review the beliefs and behaviors with which you've been living your life:
• Are they yours or someone else's?
• Are they aligned with the truth of who you really are, as they were when your face shone and your eyes sparkled?
• Have you been making choices from a place of fear (of what your life will be if you do or don't do certain things ) or from a place of truth?
• When you get to the end of your life will you look back and say "Wow, I lived the most wonderful and fulfilling life!"
If your goal is to live a deeply fulfilling, joyous and inspired life then there are some things that have to happen now. To begin with, you cannot accept 'going through the motions' as a way of life. You need to become conscious of how and why you’re living each moment. Call up those emotions of agitation and discontent that have been troubling you and become clear about what you're feeling. To put it simply, Wake Up!
Once you do, you’ll probably find that some changes are required. The process of change can feel overwhelming at times, so much so that you may think your only choice is to do something drastic in order to break free from the stress. While it may seem as though this is the only solution, facing your feelings of discontent does not mean that you have to walk away from everyone and everything in your life. When you find areas that are off track, don't let it slide. Get focused, peel back the layers, figure out where the disconnect is between where you are and where you want to be and then make small, sustainable changes in the direction of your goal. Not only is this easier to achieve, it’s also less traumatic on those around you. If, like most people, you find that you’re too close to your issues to see the forest for the trees and you need help to gain some clarity, reach out and get it!
This may sound like a lot of work but really, it isn’t. In fact, this process is so incredibly freeing that most people wonder why they didn't "wake up" sooner. Your life is meant to be a dazzling expression of all that you are. You're not meant to go though it half-asleep, settling for less, shutting down and numbing your pain. You're supposed to go for it and so, when you do, you reconnect with the greater flow and consciousness of life of which we are all apart. This is a very powerful force. If you saw the movie 'Finding Nemo' you’ll remember the scene in which the turtles are plodding along in the ocean, moving very slowly and unenthusiastically. Suddenly they step into the East Australian Current and take off at great and effortless speed, whooping it up and having the time of their lives. Well, that’s what it’s like! It’s the difference between simply existing and truly living.
When you begin living your truth you will be filled with a renewed life force, the likes of which you probably thought you'd never experience again. You will live with a sense of joy, enthusiasm and vitality that you believed only belonged to childhood.
Start by listening to that little voice inside, the one that tells you something doesn't feel right. Don't brush it aside. It's your truth. It's that shining, dazzling aspect of you waking up and wanting to live.
www.kristinajansz.com
Friday, November 13, 2009
Building Confidence
Have you ever noticed that just when you're considering stepping out of your safe zone to reach for that goal you've wanted so badly, you're filled with fear and resistance? What you really want is to be filled with Confidence.
Well, here's something you need to know about confidence.....
Confidence is developed as a RESULT of a process. The process begins with thinking things through clearly, doing all the necessary preparation, developing a strong support system, taking THE step, remaining focused on your goal, dealing with all the challenges that come up (some of which may be those you feared) and drawing on internal resources of strength and character you didn't know you possessed. Sometime later, you'll look back to the point where you originally began, probably be amazed at the steps you've taken and notice that you have gained Confidence in your ability.
Quite honestly, I think it's very beneficial to be filled with a certain amount of nervous excitement at the beginning (as opposed to being over-confident of lackadaisical) because it keeps you alert and aware of what's taking place which is the best place from which to make decisions. www.kristinajansz.com
Well, here's something you need to know about confidence.....
Confidence is developed as a RESULT of a process. The process begins with thinking things through clearly, doing all the necessary preparation, developing a strong support system, taking THE step, remaining focused on your goal, dealing with all the challenges that come up (some of which may be those you feared) and drawing on internal resources of strength and character you didn't know you possessed. Sometime later, you'll look back to the point where you originally began, probably be amazed at the steps you've taken and notice that you have gained Confidence in your ability.
Quite honestly, I think it's very beneficial to be filled with a certain amount of nervous excitement at the beginning (as opposed to being over-confident of lackadaisical) because it keeps you alert and aware of what's taking place which is the best place from which to make decisions. www.kristinajansz.com
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Good Vibes: Creating the Reality YOU Desire
I'm currently reading a book on String Theory.... Physics, which I have to admit I've had a passion for my whole life, not just physics mind you, anything that helps me understand how this whole thing called Life really works. But before you start thinking I'm a science-type, I need to tell you that the book is called "The Idiot's Guide to String Theory".
Anyway, what this book is teaching me and the point I want to make here is this: peel back all the layers of what things appear to be on the outside, and it all comes down to Vibration (...well, and then some, but that's for another time). Beliefs about yourself and others, behaviors, thoughts, feelings, relationships, things (car, table, apple)..... it's all vibration.
I know you've heard it before but today's the day you're going to hear it again: Change the vibration you have inside you on any given topic, and your Reality i.e. your association to it, changes.
How do you change your vibration?
1. Decide to feel differently
2. Deeply and powerfully Feel the emotions associated with the desired intention so that every cell in your body vibrates with the emotions (much the same way you feel when you fall in love)
3. Back it up with Behavior that is aligned with your goal. (Obviously, use some rational thought with this. Don't go spending a million dollars if you don't have it....as yet)
Do these three things Consistently with Intention and Precision and your Reality changes. Do you have any idea how much power you have, right now, to create the life you desire? Amazing!
http://www.kristinajansz.com/
Anyway, what this book is teaching me and the point I want to make here is this: peel back all the layers of what things appear to be on the outside, and it all comes down to Vibration (...well, and then some, but that's for another time). Beliefs about yourself and others, behaviors, thoughts, feelings, relationships, things (car, table, apple)..... it's all vibration.
I know you've heard it before but today's the day you're going to hear it again: Change the vibration you have inside you on any given topic, and your Reality i.e. your association to it, changes.
How do you change your vibration?
1. Decide to feel differently
2. Deeply and powerfully Feel the emotions associated with the desired intention so that every cell in your body vibrates with the emotions (much the same way you feel when you fall in love)
3. Back it up with Behavior that is aligned with your goal. (Obviously, use some rational thought with this. Don't go spending a million dollars if you don't have it....as yet)
Do these three things Consistently with Intention and Precision and your Reality changes. Do you have any idea how much power you have, right now, to create the life you desire? Amazing!
http://www.kristinajansz.com/
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